THE HAJJ EMBARRASSMENT, 2012

THE HAJJ EMBARRASSMENT!!!

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A woman should absolutely not travel unless she has a mahram with her.” A man stood up and said, “O Messenger of Allaah, I have enlisted in such-and-such a military campaign, and my wife has set out for Hajj.” He said, “Go and do Hajj with your wife.” (al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 3006).
Below is an excerpt from the website of the Saudi embassy;

“• The Mahram should write his complete information on the application forms of his spouse and children or any relative with whom he is traveling. He should also provide copies of marriage or birth certificates; if these documents were issued outside the US, he should then provide copies translated and notarized by a certified translation office.
• All women are required to travel for Hajj with a Mahram. Proof of kinship must be submitted with the application form. Women over the age of forty-five (45) may travel without a Mahram with an organized group, They must, however submits a no objection letter from her husband, son or brother authorizing her to travel for Hajj with the named group. This letter should be notarized.”

I?m fully aware of how much disdain the green passport attracts in airports all over the world; but I can?t help but add that our penchant for bending ? and often disregarding ? the law is what we should blame for this one. By ?this one?, I mean the deportation of female pilgrims for Saudi Arabia.
If the Prophet (SAW) could ask a man to accompany his wife instead of taking part in Jihad, who then are we to attempt to disregard this rule?

Sharia is Sharia; the law is the law. Muslim women are not to travel without mahrams (male relatives; father, brother, husband, paternal uncle, maternal uncle, father in law, mother?s husband or brother through radaa?ah..) who will guard, guide, protect, and care for them. I?ve come across a lot of feminist comments and would also like to ask those to kindly learn about Islam and what the requirements are, and of course the reasons for arriving at those requirements, and to refrain from making comments until they do. It?s not an ?oppression? technique; if anything, it just goes to show that women should be valued and not subjected to stress. Before aircrafts were made, the journey to Mecca was a long and stressful one indeed, during which anything could happen as many dangers were confronted on the way.
My opinion might not be particularly popular, but I still think our ?system? is to be blamed. The agents give women fake travelling companions in order to secure visas; we are used to getting things through crooked means, and we expect everybody else to put up with it. I?m still yet to imagine why anyone would intend to go on Hajj ? pilgrimage for the sake of Allah, so that you may return purified and without sin ? and still lay a dishonest ?foundation?!

The lesson here isn?t that Nigerians are being victimized, the lesson is that until we stop being so dishonest and learn to abide by the law, we will continue to suffer humiliation at the hands of other peoples! Deporting them was a terrible thing to do, but perhaps if we had obeyed the laws as we ought to, it would not have happened.

Our women did not deserve to be caged like animals and treated like criminals, but I still do not blame anyone or anything apart from our system. National embarrassment has become an everyday thing ? from South Africa (whose citizens had virtually no rights until very recently, whose representative had his plane barred from landing by a past Head of State), to Ghana (whose citizens fried puff-puff and mended shoes on our streets), Malaysia?the list is endless. If we are in this position today, it?s because we allowed it.

The reason for the persistent embarrassment can not be ?they are jealous of Nigeria?. If it?s happening at such a high frequency, perhaps it?s time to ask ?what are Nigerians doing wrong?? We are not the only African country in the world, or are we?

Many of us conduct ourselves in ways that would make even the most patient people lose their temper. This is bad for our image, but then, what exactly is left of that image?

Nigerians are sent back home from the UK in cargo planes! Go to Italy and you?ll find our women on the streets, go to the prisons in the UK, US, China, Malaysia, India, Brazil, and you?ll find a large chunk of ?Nigerians in Diaspora? therein. Na only we?

It?s true that many of us are doing remarkably well on university campuses and in science laboratories, and even in Hollywood and on the political field, but for every model Nigerian, there are at least two criminals. Something needs to be done, and something needs to be done fast.

Asking the Federal Government to deport their representativeshere is akin to saying ?Nigerians must not be cautioned against doing something wrong?. We need to respect other peoples? laws; it?s their country after all.

I deeply resent the insinuations some people are making about the character of those women, and this is because I know that there are bad eggs, but Nigerian women are nowhere near as terrible as people make them out to be.

There?s a need to educate ourselves, and indeed others, on the requirements for Hajj properly. Now is not the time to huff and puff and threaten to blow the house down. It?s sad, but the deed is done.
Claiming that we were not informed of the requirement is an admission of negligence at best. Every Muslim should know this.

Boycotting Hajj will do none of us any good; we are not going on pilgrimage to please anyone, we are doing it for the sake of Allah. We should endeavor to do it right.
Massalam

Ramadan: A blessed Month to Mankind

In the name of Allah, the most Merciful, the most Kind A blessed month is casting its shadow upon us A night of this month is better than a thousand months Bear with patience for the sake of Ar-Rahman It's a continuous training to strengthen our Imaan. Glory be to Allah who sent Ramadan as a mercy to mankind Its a purification of our soul, our heart, and our mind With the most sincere devotion and love we fast To be cleansed and free from sins of the past Glorified is He, who choseth this holy month, To test our sabr and fill our hearts with warmth Of his Divine Light, His blessings shall glow, The Seer of the unseen, all He does know Ya Allah! For thee, let my breath be more pleasant than musk Ya Allah! For thee, let me be thankful when day turns to dusk My thoughts and heart are purified, my eyes truly see' This blessed month, the month of spiritual rhapsody! Ya Allah! For thee, my life I shall live! Ya Allah! For thee, my soul I shall give! In the name of Allah, the most Merciful, the most Kind, Praise be to Allah, who sent Ramadan as a gift to mankind Logged The Almighty Allah says, "When a servant thinks of Me, I am near. When he invokes Me, I am with him. If he reflects on Me in secret, I reply in secret, And if he acknowledges Me in an assembly, I acknowledge him in a far superior assembly."

The change in my life

Next month it will be manner's two-year anniversary and thinking about that has made me pause and reflect on how things used to be and how they are now. Before I started posting blogs, I was in a particularly low place in my life. I didn't think I would ever come out of it, and most of the time I didn't even care. But, for whatever reason, two years ago something inside me demanded a change and I started working on living a more positive and present life. I knew I needed to be living my life differently and, in order to do that, I knew a lot of things about the life I was living would have to change.




It has not been easy at ALL. Since I started blogging. I've made a lot, and
I do mean a lot of changes in my life in an attempt to make every day more positive and to live more in the present. If someone had told me two years ago that I would be living the life I currently am, I never would have believed it.
So much has changed but, oddly enough, all of these changes have brought to a place where I am more of who I am. It has taken me awhile to get out of the place where I was so unhappy, but I've made a lot of strides in the right direction and every day I'm making process.


If, as Eminem's quote implies, ''you find yourself in a place where you're not living a positive life, where you're unhappy and wanting to get out of where you are and into another place,'' take a look at the To Do list I've created below for living a positive life. These are the things that I've done to get to me to where I am now. I'm still struggling, still seeking something, but when I reflect on how far I've come, I can't help it, but THANK GOD for all of the changes that have made my life so much better. If you add these items to your daily To Do list, I can guarantee that you'll find your way out of a negative place and into a positive one,
by the grace of God.
I believed if you use the following ideas you'll live a Positive Life;

1. Stop doing the things that make you unhappy.
2. Surround yourself with people who bring you up not down.
3. Invest some serious time in self-love and soul searching
4. Spend your time doing the things you love to do.
5. Revise the way you look at the world around you.
6. Be open-minded to ideas of living a positive life.
7. Stop beating yourself up about the past.
8. Don't seek happiness outside of yourself in things or people.
9. Believe you have the ability to change your own life.
10. Refuse to give up, no matter what happens or what people say.

As much as I'd advise you to do every one of the things on the above list, I know from experience how hard even one of these things can be. It takes a lot of hard to work to live a positive life, especially if you're struggling with negativity. But know this: even if you do one thing on this list, your life will improve. And you owe it to yourself to at least give it a trial. If you want to live a positive life, do it. There may be obstacles and it may be hard to get from that negative place to a positive one, but, believe me, all of the work will be worth every ounce of effort you put into it because nothing is better than loving the life you're living.

Leaving Home

The idea of leaving home, has been, for a variety of reasons whether from a good or bad home enviroment, i pursue my happines and freedom to Adamawa, maybe my destiny lies there.
Sometimes one just wants to escape and considers leaving home or may just run away, its a decision that should be considered with caution, The idea of being independent of others, is a great goal as it should be, since we all eventually enter adulthood. We are not kids forever. We may dream of having our own, freedom, happiness apartment, , house and we love shack of some sort and a top paying job. Keep in mind these are lofty dreams and good ones, one must come back to Earth and check in with reality. 

 Home should be one’s safe place to stay, yes, a place to you'll leave in happiness, help, and guidance.
....hmm....but i lack it there at Kano.
Ohh, my brother i get pressure at your house, i leave in tragical environment in there, and i believe that your faithless and illiterate wife should separate you with everyone part of you, if action should not be taken. 
You shoutout of me on no reason, just because you wanted to convince your wife? -
I Learn to find the knowledge that will help towards my survival, improve my own knowledge, problem solving skills and stay safe is my only wish for all my needs. It saddens me, when you embarrass me always infront of your wife. 
It tells me that you'd tired of my presence at kano, yes you insulted me more times than a number. So i've no choice than to leave.

As i'm concern i easly go out of control when in anxiety, and anything can happen, thus i plan to go-out before it get worse than its.
Although, they says "it's gonna get worse before it gets better" but the phrase is countless to me.

Alhamdulillah, my brother, i wish there was some way of showing my gratitude for all you have done to me.
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... for a good life. There are options and Hope.

Nigeria! Where We Belong?

f there is any time to address the ethnic question in Nigeria again, it is now.
At the front repeatedly are questions we refused to face squarely: who we are, where we belong, what we represent, what does Nigeria mean to us, do we want to remain one?, and how... 
We are Nigerians. Let's stop the killings and bombings. Stop the bloodshed. Remember the labours of our heroes past. It must not be in vain. We are over 167million in population and over 250 ethnic groups speaking over 500 languages yet we remain the country with the least population in the world because we are ONE. Just ONE.
First and famous, I Islam is known to be a religion of peace and does not condone violence and crime in any form. [...hope christianity do as well]" and BOKO-HARAM doesn't represent Islam.
 In my view BOKO-HARAM are not muslims because Islam forbidden crime, infact, violence in general. I
 I hate war, always have. I don't think its right for people to kill each other over anything. There has been so much bloodshed and so many don't even know why they're fighting. It would be just so much better if everyone could just debate their differences. I find war to be unnecessary. It's like giving someone a license to kill and for what. If it makes that person feel good about themselves killing others then there is something totally wrong with that person. We are all God's creatures so why don't we all act like it. Sure there will and always will be differences but that is just nature. many have lost family members in the wars and for what. Sure we have fought for what we believe in but why did there have to be so much bloodshed. It wasn't really needed it could have been handled in a better way. Look at all the people and families that are ruined in Kano, maiduguri, bauchi, bombe, kaduna...etc. and still in turmoil over the boomblast, gunshoot, Look at how properties has been destroyed and all the War causes so much damage and still people can't get along adding to the equation. When people will start realizing their own means of destruction and improve ways of communication and understanding, I have no idea. All I know is that there is no way I am going to support any war. It just saddens me with so much hatred there is in Nigeria.Nigeria belongs to us, we have no other country to lay claims. 
Imams and Pastors, Sultan and Bishops, Jama'atu Nasril Islam (JNI) and Christain Association of Nigeria (CAN), no need for personal interests, Muslims and Christians have died from the onslaught of this evil group against the Nigerian people. 
This is our Nigeria. We all owe Nigeria a duty.